by Lynda Spirit Baptiste
I believe that our LOVATIONSHIP GURU’S continue to prove and provide guidance as to how to build a loving compassionate lifelong partnership filled with joy, happiness and how to get though anything that differs from peace and bliss. So on the off chance that this is what you would like to experience in your life I invite you to stay tuned into our series and the Learning Keys we offer to facilitate your greatest Lovationship of a lifetime.
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LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) How do you stand by your woman?
How do I stand by my woman? That’s a tough one.
(Me - That is a good question.)
I don’t know how you really want me to answer that. Ah!
(Me - Whatever comes to your heart. There is no right and no wrong answer.)
I guess. She knows. Ah…through her stress. I mean sometimes she gets stressed out. And I just stand by her all the time, and give her hope through Christ. And I let her know…NO matter what, I am 100% behind her with the bills, everything. We just bond together…all the time. I don’t know if I am answering that right or not.
2) How do you show her heart that you care?
Ah! Every morning! I mean, no matter what. Every morning, I just—well I wake her up in the morning time. I always I mean…every morning sometimes I know she has stuff on her mind and I so I just say, “Good morning! Let’s go make some money! And I know she doesn’t want to get up some mornings and she’ll say, “Stop waking me up! I’ll say, “Come on Baby, it just one day, let’s go make a dollar. I hope that’s letting her heart know that I love her. I’m not sure I’m answering these questions right though.
(Me - I know, these are not easy questions, so it’s okay.)
3) How do you know she gets it; the fact that you stand by her and care for her heart?
Because I get that big smile, and the times when she is wrong, she will promptly apologize. That’s when you know that somebody knows you are there for them.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) How do you stand by your woman?
Oh I stand by her for the good times and bad times. I mean any problems she may have. I’m here to support her. I will defend her. I mean… we’ve been through a lot with her being sick and everything. So that has pretty much been tested through our whole relationship. I mean I try to be there to support her for everything she needs, good and bad.
2) How do you show her heart that you care?
By being there. By listening. I would say the good thing about us is, we are really good friends. So we talk about anything and everything. I would say by doing things that she wants without her having to ask. It’s like when you say “I got your back”—that’s how it is with us. I got her back.
3) How do you know she gets it; that you stand by her and care for her heart?
She pretty much reciprocates and does the same thing with me. And I can see it in her smile. I can hear it in her voice; I can hear it in her conversation, by her touch, by the vibe we get. Like a lot of times with us; we sacrifice. We work together but we have different schedules. So she will come to work early and wait for me to see me or I will come in early and wait on her or we’ll wait on each other in the evening depending on who is off first to spend time together after we get off.
(PS: This interview with our Lovationship Guru took place on the phone while he was ordering dinner at a restaurant with his loving wife by his side after work in the middle of the week)
We do so much together. Everybody always says we are just alike, I say we are like two peas in a pod. But that simply accentuates the relationship.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) How do you stand by your woman?
First of all there is a difference between a man and there is a difference between a gentleman, number one. And I feel that when you stand by your woman you lend her your ears as far as listening to her. And you also stand by her for any help that she needs when there is manpower that is needed. And you also allow her to lead the type of life that she wants to live when she is with you. In other words, you don’t shoot her down about things she would like to do in her life. And just allow her to be herself. And it’s because when you call yourself being in love, sometimes you forget (women) about what you need to be doing or what you stand for and you do everything based upon that person that you are with rather than getting things done for yourself.
2) How do you show her heart that you care?
Well you know there is a certain level of interest that you give her according to whatever it is that she is going through or whatever it is that she is trying to show you. There is a level of interest you give a woman whenever she speaks. And you give her your undivided attention as soon as you can, you know. I don’t expect immediately. But you value her say so.
3) How do you know she gets it; that you stand by her and care for her heart?
A) Well, one way of knowing that she gets the understanding that you love her is or that you care about her is that you don’t really hear any complaints about anything. And that she is very willing to talk with you about anything to you. And also that she takes her time and looks you in the eyes when she talks to you.
Well there you have it! The learning keys are within the answers of our Lovationship Gurus. Can you see here that if you are happy in these areas of your life chances are your partner is happy for you, with you and these things make him happy too.
(k) To enhance the learning keys for yourself I invite you to reread this article at a time when you can gather your list of what makes you happy from my Don’t Worry Be Happy article. Bring that list and gather yourself until you are completely relaxed. Look closely at your list of what makes you happy and you will most likely also see that the same aspects of happiness that are real for you— is also creating happiness—for your partner with you. Perhaps notice, if you are not a woman who enjoys cooking and cleaning then you would most likely not be happy with a partner who holds this as a dear and important value. Perhaps he might consider an alternate means to get these tasks done without you doing them hands on. Such as a family member in the home doing them or having a service come in. But if this is an important value for a man and he does not want a clean house and a home cooked meal BUT a women who wants to offer and bring these things into the partnership, just having the means to get them done would not work too well. As you now have your list of what makes you happy, next I would encourage you to begin making a list of Your dearest values. Knowing Your values and the values of Your partner is the foundation on which to build upon to an awesome Lovationship.
k)YOU Are The Greatest Love of All, Know Yourself, Be True To Yourself, Know Your Values, Know What Makes You Happy On The Inside First…You Are On Your Way To Attracting the Lovationship Partner of Your Dreams.
I love you.
Lynda Spirit Baptiste
Lynda totally loves and completely enjoys helping YOU discover YOUR Life Purpose and Connect It to Your Career Passion and The Lovationship of Your Dreams. She is an Empowering, Experiential Certified Law of Attraction Practitioner and an Inspiring Certified-Master Life Purpose Coach.
You may reach out to her at Design Your Success 1 888 564-4114