by Lynda Spirit Baptiste
Once again, I conclude that our Lovationship Gurus are giving us authentic answers that touch our hearts and open our minds. I believe their highly perceptive answers will lead us to greater wisdom in creating our own Lovationship success.
They provide answers to questions that we might want to want to ask our own partners or partners to be. I myself remember and have come to practice some very sage advice someone once gave me. They told me, it is the questions you ask that matter the most. What they meant was that you have to ask the right questions to get the right answers. I find this week’s answers a whole lot more interesting then what I had originally thought to be interesting questions.
I always make sure my Lovationship Gurus feel comfortable. I let them know they can speak freely and from their heart because they are protected by anonymity. I feel positively certain this is the kind of connection we have. After all, these questions are too tough to have canned responses; would you agree?
I notice our Lovationship Gurus always take a minute and think before they respond. More times than not they repeat my question first, and you can genuinely tell they have gone to the deep recesses of their heart before they respond. So, I want to take a moment here to “Thank All of Our Lovationship Gurus” over the past weeks for their thought provoking and profound contributions. Thank you for helping us move towards creating a greater understanding on the nature of how to improve, enhance and enlighten our minds at the heart level to have the best Lovationship we deserve for ourselves and our partners. Please check our Thoughtful Thursday archives to comment and acknowledge all of our Lovationship Guru’s contributions. Now, let’s jump right into this week’s juicy article, shall we?
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
Are You In Love?
(LG)…Am I in love. What is your definition of love?
(ME)… How about you give me your definition of love.
(LG) I think my definition of love would be… A person that you care about; a person that you have feelings for, a person that you trust, a person that you respect, a person that you have their best interest at heart, and consider them to be a close individual to you.
Now…”BEING IN LOVE”, I don’t know what defines…“BEING IN LOVE”. If you love a person does that mean you’re IN LOVE??? You can love a person. But does that mean you’re “IN LOVE?” I don’t know if I have ever been IN LOVE. When I have heard people say they’ve been in love I have heard them interpret that in a context meaning that they were head over heels for a person, inseparable, meaning like that they could not move on. If I understand you correctly, I don’t think I have ever been like that “IN LOVE”.
How do you know you are in love?
If you have never been “IN LOVE” how do you know?
How does love make you feel?
Happy at times, hum; complicated at times, hum; at ease, relaxed, and the last word I would probably say, would be “focused.”
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
Are you in love?
(Long pause) No.
(ME) I was hoping you were going say no, because you sure took a long time to answer.
(LG) Yeah, you are right, you figure when you take that long to answer, you really can’t answer any other way.
(ME) Well, okay! I am trying to think is there a way that I can skew my questions because my other two questions relate to the first one, so let me see.
How do you know that you are in love?
Well I love somebody but…I’ve been asked the question… am I in love with them and I kinda give them the same answer. It is not as direct as the answer I just gave to you, but, you know…she get’s the same effect that I just gave you basically without me saying it that direct… you know what I mean?
(ME) Well that is interesting. That adds a completely new color to the question.
(LG) That’s why I wanted to add that because I thought it may or may not have made a little difference.
(ME) So say that again to me what you just said. Let me make sure I understood you.
I was saying that there is someone that I have been in a relationship with and that I love but… I don’t feel I am “IN LOVE” with them. And I have expressed the same to them… and well you know. I feel like if I was in love with them, then I would be willing to do any and everything and sacrifice any and everything. And I find myself not wanting to do that…at times. So that’s how I kind of feel like…you know.
(ME) So well that is interesting and that tells me how you know you are not in love.
(LG) Right! I was going to say that’s my answer to two of the questions in one little answer.
(ME) All right then, I am going to go ahead and ask you…
How does love make you feel?
Love…love makes me feel (pause) comfortable appreciated these are the things that just kind a pop in my head. Happy, hum, makes me feel full. I know that when I’m not with somebody, or have love for somebody, directly speaking about relationships, other than you know my love for my mother, and family and stuff like that. But I’m talking about when I have not been in a situation when I am with somebody and I love them, it feels like there is a little void there. Because when I say full I mean you know it makes me feel full because I feel not all the way full. My life has certain things in it, like my working out, my dogs; I love dogs, my family, my hanging out with the fellas. But there is a small piece missing to actually fill that cup all the way up. So that’s what I mean when I say I feel full. So when I love somebody it kind of makes me feel full. That's kind of like the completion to all the other aspects of my life. And when I don’t have somebody I mean I’m having fun, I am enjoying myself and this and that but you know sometimes I’m sitting at home and I say to myself, darn, it would be nice to have somebody to love right now.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
Are you in love?
Yes
How do you know that you are in love?
A person pisses me off and I don’t do the things I used to do. I just don’t leave. You know…as men do. How can I put it? Men have to walk away. It is not a matter of running and going nowhere because now it makes no sense to run and go nowhere.
How does love make you feel?
A. It makes you feel good to know you have somebody you are with and you are not alone. You know you have that companionship. I guess to it starts with where you are at in life. Then you know you have that companionship for the rest of your life or looking forward to it for the rest of your life.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
Are you in love?
Yes! I am.
How do you know that you are in love?
Because when I am not talking to that person, I get (I don’t know) I get kind of fidgety. Like I don’t know where they are. It’s like I get happy and excited when I talk to them. And it’s like I am calm and cool. And I know this person has my back, just as well as I have theirs. And they accept me as who I am. I don’t have to change any parts of me. I mean if I do, that’s because I want to. But they like me for me. As whom I am.
How does love make you feel?
Great! Because it’s a good feeling to know that somebody feels the same why about you that you feel about them. And, you can express yourself in whatever way you want to without them (how should I say) using it against you later.
(k) To know truth…??? Well that is my question for you. How do you know truth when you know truth? Tell me how truth touch’s you so that you are doubtless in the face of truth. I look forward to your comments below.
Lynda totally loves and completely enjoys helping YOU discover YOUR Life Purpose and Connect It to Your Career Passion and The Lovationship of Your Dreams. She is an Empowering, Experiential Certified Law of Attraction Practitioner and an Inspiring Certified-Master Life Purpose Coach.
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