By Lynda Spirit Baptiste
Well I am not sure what you are thinking, but I think our Lovationship Gurus are leading us to some very valuable information, especially for those of us looking to be in or remain in lifelong partnerships. You know the kind I mean; the ones when you hear about the couple celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. All of a sudden, the shock sets in, your jaw drops and you gasp a deep, “WOW”. You are amazed and your mind wonders a bit. Next you hear yourself say, “I wonder how they did that?”
I am certain if you stay tuned into our series on Lovationships you will uncover the answers you are looking for to create the happiness of lifelong partnerships in your own life. Initially the information from our Lovationship Gurus may seem as though it is a giant puzzle. As you stay tuned in weekly I am certain their answers will began to come together and prove to be a lot less like a puzzle and more like a roadmap you can follow to reach your happy endings. My Lovationship Gurus are selected randomly. The only thing they have in common is that they are men. They vary in life experience, occupation, age, background, and ethnicity. Their only connection is their willingness to be honest and open with me about the women they want to have or that they do have in their life. I am grateful for their straightforward and sacred, straight from their heart, responses to my questions. It really helps to serve the purpose of helping you to attain being in love and happy to no end with yourself, so that you will attract the Lovationship Partner of your dreams, so you will be loving and happy together.
This week I wanted to ask our Lovationship Gurus who have been in committed and long-term partnerships about what makes them happywith the woman in their life. Then I asked them to share one moment when they where most unhappy in their partnership because of her (even though we know, there are usually two sides to every story). Most importantly, I think we want to know how they got past it together.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) What makes you happy with the woman in your life?
A) Her loyalty. Also, she can keep information confidential; she can even keep a secret. I know that she would never use anything I have told her against me, even if it was as sensitive as, sexual abuse.
2) Will you share one moment when you were most unhappy in your partnership because of her?
A) When she fails to keep herself looking good and when she gets down and discouraged about things like not finding a job. I need her to know the importance of how to keep it going no matter what may happen.
3) How did the two of you get past it together?
A) Sometimes we don’t get past them we just get through them together. Meaning that for instance, if she has a weight problem, I take her by the hand and we go workout together. You can’t just tell a woman she has put on too much weight. If she is not keeping up her appearance, we will go shopping and I will pick out some things for her.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) What makes you happy with the woman in your life?
A) Seeing her happy, coming home to a clean house, and a warm meal.
2) Will you share one moment when you were most unhappy in your partnership because of her?
A) Making an important decision without me.
3) How did the two of you get past it together?
A) We talked it out and that made everything feel much better.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) What makes you happy with the woman in your life?
A) We may have to skip that question
2) Will you share one moment when you were most unhappy in your partnership because of her?
A) The sex
3) How did the two of you get past it together?
A) Not there yet
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) What makes you happy with the woman in your life?
A) I can trust her. And whatever rocky road we have gone down, she has always been there with me.
2) Will you share one moment when you where most unhappy in your partnership because of her?
A) On our 2nd Anniversary, I gave her a full length fur coat and the response I got from that was one of disgust because I did not feel like she appreciated it.
3) How did the two of you get past it together?
A) Through communication with each other. We talked about it and in that talk I found out that she felt like she was not deserving of the coat.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) What makes you happy with the woman in your life?
A) Her showing appreciation of me as her husband because when - or if - you are not shown this it makes all you are doing not worth anything.
2) Will you share one moment when you where most unhappy in your partnership because of her?
A) At a time when she failed to believe me when I was telling the truth about something. She preferred to go with what appeared to be instead of the truth of what I was telling her.
3) How did the two of you get past it together?
A) We are compromising. We are actually working on it right now. So what we are doing at this time is compromising and if we were not doing that then we would not get past it.
Well there you have it! The learning keys are within the answers of our Lovationship Gurus. Can you see here that if you are happy in these areas of your life chances are your partner is happy too.
(k) To enhance the learning keys for yourself I invite you to reread this article at a time when you can gather your list of what makes you happy from my Don’t Worry Be Happy article. Bring that list and gather yourself until you are completely relaxed. Look closely at your list of what makes you happy and you will most likely also see that same aspect of happiness— is also creating happiness—with you for your partner. Please notice, if you are not a woman who enjoys cooking and cleaning then you would most likely not be happy with a partner who holds this as a dear and important value. Perhaps he might consider an alternate means to get these tasks done without you doing them hands on. But if this is an important value for a man and he does not want a clean house and a home cooked meal BUT a women who wants to offer and bring these things into the partnership, just having the means to get them done would not work too well.As you now have your list of what makes you happy, next I would encourage you to begin making a list of your dearest values. Knowing our values and the values of our partner is the foundation on which to build up to an awesome Lovationship.
You Are The Greatest Love of All, Know Yourself, Be True To Yourself, Know Your Values, Know What Makes You Happy On The Inside First…You Are On Your Way To Attracting the Partnership of Your Dreams.
I love you.
Lynda Spirit Baptiste
Lynda totally loves and completely enjoys helping YOU discover YOUR Life Purpose and Connect It to Your Career Passion and The Lovationship of Your Dreams. She is an Empowering, Experiential Certified Law of Attraction Practitioner and an Inspiring Certified-Master Life Purpose Coach.
You may reach out to her at Design Your Success 1 888 564-4114