by Lynda Spirit Baptiste
This week at Thoughtful Thursdays we are giving the single men an opportunity to help us learn about LOVATIONSHIPS! As always, I believe you will find it Love-sightful, Love-Enlightening and Loveshipfull and full of Learning Keys!
You know as I grow and continue this wonderful work on LOVATIONSHIPS I have a growing concern that the word “LOVE” does not become a slang word or worse, a cliché. It is my opinion that the word love is not a word to simply Say; it is a term we use to give expression to the innermost being of ourselves. (k) Love is who you are. Love is a movement. You are the action of love. Love is a flowing movement. It is in you because it is you. If you allow yourself to become still enough you can experience the love that is inside of you. If you are not used to this experience, try this. (k) Get yourself to be still and mentally quiet. Then ask your inner self to reveal to you your love inside. It will pop up for you. It will tend to feel like a shot of adrenalin and then it will fleet away almost as fast as it came. Sort of like a flicker, you thought you saw but then it disappeared and you were no longer sure you saw it. Don’t despair and don’t doubt the feeling. You can do it again and experience the same thing. The more you practice this the more you will bring the love you are into filling you up from the inside source until it also covers the outside of you. It is then available for you to wear every day. I hope you will do this until this happens for you because then we can have conversations about how you now find that you posses a magnificent personal power and you create magic in your life. I am excited for you and cannot wait to have that conversation with you.
If you can see that love is you and the very essence of your life perhaps you can see my concern that the word love and its recent popular use or overuse does not detach us from the greatness and the magic we are. Here are some of the words that I use to give life to the essence that is love: Comfort, Koolness, Stress Free: Deep Relaxation, Flying, Guarantee, Free, Today, Happiness, Joy, Bliss, Experiencing Your Wholeness, Divinity, Feeling Alive, Exhilaration, Sweetness, Gentleness, Ease, Effortlessness , Synchronicity, Favor, Grace, Kindness, Grateful, Acceptance, Peace, Fresh Air, Sunshine, Thank you and from there any other word that causes your heart to open in a way that is warm, soft, endless. I would love to hear about any words that bring love to life for you. Just hit me up in the comments box below…
Let’s find out some infinite wisdom I have captured from the words that our LOVATIONSHIP GURUS have used to express their hearts on the matter.
I have asked each of our LOVATIONSHIP GURUS the following three questions:
1.) Why aren’t you married?
2.) Why are you still single?
3.) What do you look for in a woman? Is that different for a wife?
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) Why aren’t you married?
I want to get other things accomplished right now. You have to have yourself together first. I am focused on bettering myself right now.
I am working on “more money” and trying to advance my DJ thing and get it together before I can commit to a good Lovationship.
2) Why are you still single?
“I have not found the right women”
3) What do you look for in a woman /is that different for a wife?
Communication is key. It can’t be like, I’m talking to you and you’re talking to me but we are not talking to each other because when it’s like that we are not going anywhere.
I want someone to help me get it together
Because when those who grind it out together and help each other, well we will stay together longer; kind of like the concept of they that pray together stay together
Physical aspect is important. I look to see who she is around, how she conducts herself --vs.-- a wife, I want to know what are her future plans and do they involve me (after you get to know her) and are her goals similar
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) Why aren’t you married?
Well I am trying to cater to folks right now but they have more issues than I do.
2) Why are you still single?
Well Michelle Obama is taken and really---too many women I meet carry too much luggage from past experiences. I want to be in a Lovationship where I can grow and thrive. I want to offer and have love, understanding and communication.
3) What do you look for in a woman /is that different for a wife?
No, it is the same standard. One who can handle herself in any situation and if in a sticky or bad situation she can talk eloquently enough to get herself out of it. She needs to exude a strong sense of self-confidence. If someone show confidence all the time you feel good just being around them. I want those old-fashioned standards that Grandma taught us. A woman who knows the difference in having her needs met versus her wants. I like her to have an entrepreneurial spirit with good education, and who is doing what she loves to do versus what she has to do. Also, a woman who will work with me.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) Why aren’t you married?
Because I was before and I am not at the point yet to get married again. But I have been proposed to. I am still enjoying myself as a single individual.
2) Why are you still single?
I have not found the right person yet so I am still dating and the longer I stay single the more difficult it gets. When the emotions get involved it gets stressful and they demand more time and stuff like that.
I enjoy dating and I have fun and all as long as there is no pressure or demanding, everything is fine. I guess I would have to be in the same state of mind and vice versa.
2) What do you look for in a woman /is that different for a wife?
I don’t know. That’s a weird question. I don’t know if you can sum it up. I think if we blend together, if we have the same values. I like an independent woman; she needs to be responsible in general and particularly with credit, finances, and spending. Spending and finances have to be in order. They have to be smart and responsible and have common sense. If they like you then they automatically have a caring heart. I think I have a good inner sense to know if the person is really into to me and vise versa.
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) Why aren’t you married?
I know what I want and I know what I don’t want. I don’t want the drama and I want a loving and affectionate and caring type of woman and one that can cook or knows her way around the kitchen. One that is down to earth, can communicate, but not the superwoman type.
2) Why are you still single?
I have not found that woman yet.
I am single by choice not by force. I don’t need the headache. If you are going to get on my nerves in a cool way and fun loving way fine so be it—but don’t’ get on my nerves in a negative way to push my buttons to see how far I can go because if the shoe was on the other foot you would not want that done to you
There are people out here that are what you call “selfish lovers.”
3) What do you look for in a woman /is that different for a wife?
That is the same thing. They go hand in hand—I don’t have a laundry list. I look for the companionship; she has to be a good friend as well as your lover. There has to be some compromise there. Communication (talk to me, tell me what is wrong, tell me what is bothering you, so talk to me so we can solve this issue and get past it)
LOVATIONSHIP GURU
1) Why aren’t you married?
Tried it, did work out, never will do it again
2) Why are you still single?
That is an interesting question because it has only been in the past few weeks that I have even considered it. Due to having such an eclectic way of thinking it would be hard to find someone compatible.
3) What do you look for in a woman /is that different for a wife?
Communication is at the top of my list (this is the key to any relationship be it friends, family, platonic, affair. It’s important to have the ability to be candid and honest about your feelings and thoughts, no matter how out of this world they may seem; from both sides. To be able to say what you feel and have that be reciprocated from your partner is a critical component. It is the difference between being in love vs. merely loving each other. I want someone who I can trust. And someone who has a love of life.
Well there you have it. I am wondering; is anyone besides me starting to see a similar pattern here? It is beginning to look to me that men seem to want more of the same or have very similar desires about their Lovationship partners. I want you to know they are coming from their hearts with this insight. They are deeply thinking through these questions and are concise in their answers as they give them to me. I think it is very interesting how much the emphasis they are each expressing is more similar than different. So maybe men are not from Mars after all.
Please feel free to give us your comments.
I love you
Lynda Spirit Baptiste
Lynda is an Empowering, Experiential Certified Law of Attraction Practitioner and a Master Life Purpose Coach who enjoys helping you BE a Powerful Element of Attraction to Your Powerful Life Purpose and the Lovationship of Your Dreams. You may reach out to her at Design Your Success 1 888 564-4114